Article by James Kay
Weddings are a time of joy when two families get together to celebrate love, right?
Traditionally, the wedding ceremony will be followed by a reception where people eat, drink and get a little bit merry.
The choice of catering can vary from wedding to wedding, but there will usually be something available for all dietary requirements.
However, when one bride decided to opt for a plant-based menu, several members of her family refused to attend altogether.
Posting on Mumsnet, the mother of the bride was looking for advice as she couldn’t figure out what to do in regard to the vegan menu.
She wrote: “My daughter’s wedding is this summer, we’ve been planning it together for months and we have genuinely had a good time doing so. However, my daughter is a vegan, and she is adamant that the wedding also must be vegan.”
The mum clarified that she is absolutely fine with her daughter’s lifestyle and even supported the plant-based menu, but it was when she put the information on the invites that things started to unravel.
“We have had many RSVPs basically saying they will not be coming if the food is vegan. I have to say this was unexpected, many of the family are quite traditional, meat-and-two-veg, but I did not expect this to be such a problem,” the mum continued.
The bride’s mum was stuck between a rock and a hard place because her daughter was unwilling to budge, but it seems like the numbers for the wedding were dropping rapidly, and many of those dropping out were direct family members.
It even got to the point where the bride contemplated cancelling the event altogether due to people dropping out, and the mum wondered whether she should have left the plant-based menu info off the invite.
“I am trying to be supportive, but I don’t really understand why my daughter can’t allow a menu choice to try and please everyone,” she said.
“The people who have refused told me that they are fed up having to make concessions for my daughter and provide vegan food at any parties or events, not that they have thrown many, and then not have their own tastes catered for when the roles are reversed.”
People took to the comments to offer their thoughts, with most being on the side of the bride as they couldn’t understand why the guests bailed.
“I think the guests are the ones being highly unreasonable, not your daughter. If anyone was so rude as to refuse to come to my wedding because of a tantrum over food, I wouldn’t want them there anyway,” one person wrote.
A second added: “How rude of them. Your poor daughter. I think you did the right thing, imagine they came and ruined the day complaining.”
Others believed that the mum should have left out the information about the catering, to avoid all the conflict.
There’s nothing like a bit of wedding drama, is there?
What do you think of this debate? It looks like the jury is still out, but we’d suggest anybody scared of plant-based food has just been eating in the wrong places!